Interfaith minister // FUNERAL DIRECTOR // COUNSELLOR
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What can sport teach us about grief, ceremony and belonging? Watching the NRL community rally around Jai Arrow has had me thinking about what it means to gather in the face of heartbreak — and how ceremony, at its simplest, is simply saying: we see you, you matter, and you don't have to do this alone.
Read moreNot sure how to talk to your family about death and end-of-life wishes? This guide makes it easier - with practical conversation starters, a list of decisions you'll need to make one day, and a gentle reminder that one conversation is all it takes.
Read moreFunerals are expensive. That much most people know. But when a bill arrives in the days after someone you has died, it can feel impossible to understand what you're actually paying for - or whether any of it was necessary. This guide is for families who want to understand.
Read moreThe way you are treated in the first 48 hours after a death can stay in your body for years. Trauma-informed death care recognises that grief is not just emotional - it is neurological. Shock, brain fog and overwhelm are normal nervous system responses. A trauma-informed approach slows the process, restores choice and avoids adding harm to an already painful moment…
Read moreTalking to children about death can feel overwhelming. This article offers calm, practical guidance and gentle language to help families navigate grief together with honesty and care.
Read moreA Gentle Guide to Death Literacy Conversations This Festive Season. Here’s my warm, funny, very human tips for talking about death and wishes with the people you love - without dampening the Christmas cheer. A little awkward, a lot loving and deeply worthwhile.
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In this podcast episode with Catherine Ashton, I reflect on my journey as an interfaith minister and funeral director, and what it really means to “do death differently.” From barefoot backyard funerals to community Death Cafés, I share how ritual can hold truth, grief, and healing in all their complexity.
Read moreCreating keepsakes and moments of connection at funerals can be a beautiful way of honouring someone’s life. A small object can carry so much meaning – a phrase, a colour, a symbol that speaks to who they were and what they leave behind. Badges, in particular, hold a kind of quiet magic.
Read moreAs a funeral director, I’ve come to understand that there are moments in grief that catch us off guard. One of those moments is when I knock on your door holding the ashes of your loved one. This quiet exchange is often more emotional than people expect. This gentle guide offers 3 simple ways to allow this moment to feel supported.
Read moreCremation is becoming an increasingly common choice in Australia for a range of personal, cultural, and environmental reasons. Yet for many, the process still feels mysterious or even confronting. Whether you're planning ahead or supporting a loved one through a loss, it’s completely normal to have questions. So I’ve compiled the most frequently asked questions I get about cremation - answered with honesty and care.
Read moreAs a funeral celebrant working across the UK and Australia, I’ve seen how flowers show up in countless ways at farewells - humble, extravagant, wild, homegrown - and each time, they carry meaning. I believe flowers aren’t just for show; they’re an offering of love, beauty, and connection.
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This ANZAC Day, I'm remembering - and reflecting on a pilgrimage taken ten years ago - to the battlefields of France, where the footsteps of my ancestors still echo in the soil and the violence in the earth called me belly to the ground.
Read moreOdd confession: I love writing eulogies. I’m mindful that this isn’t the case for most people. Writing a eulogy can feel like a very daunting task - how do you capture an entire lifetime in just a few minutes? Here are my tried & tested six tips to craft something that feels alive with the unique, brilliant essence of your person.
Read moreOpen, honest, and heartfelt conversation about death, dying, and living well - over cake and a cuppa. In a world where death is often a taboo topic, a Death Café offers a rare space to talk openly about our mortality, our fears, our hopes, and how we make meaning of our time here.
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Sadie & I tending to the beautiful grave of my darling friend, Blair, who died suddenly from Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML) in 2011, aged 29.
I believe in taking children to cemeteries. I believe in including them in funeral ceremonies & the rituals of death - not to frighten or alarm them, but to teach them that dying is a part of life and that grief is a part of love.
Read moreAs both a Funeral Director and a musician, helping you choose the right soundscape for a funeral ceremony is something I am deeply passionate about. But where to even start?! I’ve put together a series of playlists to help guide and inspire your choices.
Read moreWe mark the beginning of a marriage with vows, rings, and celebration. But when a marriage ends, there is often no ceremony - just paperwork, division of assets, and a quiet, complicated grief that society doesn’t always know how to hold.
Read moreFor many people, the words ‘funeral celebrant’ and ‘funeral director’ sound interchangeable. But in reality, they’re distinct roles - and, as someone who wears both hats, I want to share why that matters.
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