7 Things We Should All Know About Death & Funerals
1. What Happens Between The Death & The Funeral?
Most people have no idea what happens in the days between a death and the funeral. And that gap is where a lot of unnecessary fear lives. So let me talk you through it…
2. The Funeral Belongs To You
Here’s your reminder that you are allowed to hold the funeral.
Not the funeral home. Not the institution. Not the format in the brochure.
You.
The ceremony belongs to the people who loved them.
It always did - and it always should.
3. Funeral Venues: You Can Hold A Funeral there?!
The funeral doesn’t have to happen in a chapel.
Backyards. Bushland. Riverbanks. Clifftops. The bowlo. The surf club. The family home loungeroom. I’ve held funerals in all of these places.
The ceremony location you choose really tells a story. Make sure it’s theirs.
Think about where your person felt most alive. Most themselves. That place already exists. Maybe you just haven’t thought of it as a funeral venue yet.
If you’re in the Blue Mountains, I’ve put together a free guide to 21 stunning locations for a beautiful farewell.
4. Body Disposal Options In Australia
Most people know about cremation and burial, but there are other options - and some of them are extraordinary.
We all have to make this decision - so let’s talk about it…
5. Funeral flowers: The history, the cost & how to do it yourselves.
Humans have been placing flowers with their dead for over 60,000 years.
It has always been a way of saying: this person was loved. Beauty belongs here.
But funeral flowers from a florist can be expensive. Hundreds, sometimes thousands of dollars.
Here's what most families don't know: you can do it yourselves.
6. Shrouded Cremation: what even is that?
Instead of a coffin, the body is wrapped in a natural biodegradable shroud for cremation.
That's it. Simple, beautiful, and now available in most Australian states.
For families who want something more natural, more intimate or simply less conventional than a standard timber box, a shroud can feel far more aligned with their values. It's also considerably less expensive.
The shroud can be plain. Or it can be hand dyed, embroidered, decorated with flowers, written on by the people who loved them. And some families choose to do the wrapping themselves. A final act of physical care. Hands doing something real and tender for the last time.
If this resonates, ask your funeral director if it's something they can support. A good one will say yes without hesitation.
7. What does a funeral cost in Australia? The no bulls**t version.
Let me be upfront: what I share here are broad ballpark figures based on major cities. Costs vary enormously across Australia and I want to acknowledge that regional, rural and remote communities face real additional challenges. Huge distances, complex logistics, limited providers. All of that can significantly impact what families pay. These figures are a rough guide only, not a quote.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU NEED TO KNOW:
You are allowed to ask for an itemised quote. Not a package. A line by line breakdown of every single thing you are paying for. Do this before you sign anything.
Knowledge is power. Especially in grief.
If cost is a genuine concern, say so. Many funeral directors offer payment plans. There are also options at the lower end of the cost scale that can still be meaningful and dignified. Nobody should ever go into debt to cover a funeral.
And if a family truly cannot pay, government and council funded options exist. It is not widely talked about but it is important that you know it is there.
I’ve also create a free guide explaining funerals costs and whats involved, check out: Funerals: What Are You Actually Paying For?
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